Are Sex Toys better used alone or with a partner?

 

 

I get asked these questions all the time.

 

Should I use toys with my partner?

Should I tell my partner that I use toys when I masturbate?

Will Toys be good or bad for my relationship?

 

It is very clear that sex toys are great for masturbation.

It can certainly make things a lots more interesting. Toys can be used to enhanceEww  your experience, making it more erotic and much more intense. Some toys are there to imitate a partner. Things like dildos and masturbators are there to simulate a partner. Other toys are there for extra stimulation. Like nipple clamps, prostate massagers etc.

And of course there are many to aid in fantasy role play.

 Are Sex Toys better used alone or with a partner

I first experienced a dildo when I was 19 years old , I was dating an older man with a very big cock. He thought is would be fun to use a dildo on me to help me get used to his cock, it certainly helped and was great fun. That was really the first time and the last for many years.

Toys were never part of my sexual adventures, either alone or with others.

 

Only in the last 15 years or so, when I really started to feel more sexualy aware and more confident did I start to explore my sexualityw and what I liked and didnt like. Sex toys were my tools, my path to discovery without judgement and fear.

 A dildo never talks back or laughs!!!!!!! 

I bought myself a few dildos ( a variety of sizes ) and a great masturbation sleeve.

And of course some hot cock rings. I just love a cock in a cock ring.

And I went about using these toys on myself. I can not over exaggerate how this changed things for me. I was experiencing things on my own and in ways I had never dreamed of.

Being alone with these toys gave me the confidence and the LUST to want to try more and more. I was suddenly discovering what I liked and how to make things feel so much better. I was suddenly experiencing multiple and prolonged orgasms. Real mind blowing stuff . My life had been changed forever.

My sexual appetite was sky rocketing and so was my desire to explore these new adventures with other men.

With this new found appetite, confidence, skills and the absolute desire to explore my sexuality as much as I could. I wanted to explore and expand my boundaries as much as possible.

I was like a dog with 2 dicks. I was so horny and enjoying some of the best sex ever in my life. 

Some guys were not really into toys  ( and that was ok ) but other were interested in exploring things with me. It was a liberating and very educational part of my life. This new found confidence and willingness to try new things leaked in to every part of my life. I was becoming the confident, outgoing person I always wanted to be.

I eventually met a guy who I liked very much. We soon started dating and things just went from there.

We used sex toys from the very beginning. Not all the time but certainly very often.

I am convinced that it was the fact that we were both open to try new toys and new adventures that kept our sex life alive. We had the best sex ever. The toys kept things fresh and different. We could try different sizes,shapes, different role play. The opportunities for experimentation were endless. there was a toy for everything. Perhaps we massed a collection of sex toys that many people would find shocking. And yes we did need a separate closet for them all.

There is a different sense of honesty and vulnerability that comes with using toys with a partner. Expressing what you like and showing what you like is the most liberating feeling. And of course, with all this knowledge and experience doing what your partner likes and having things done to you that you like is amazing.

Watching a partner pleasure himself while you are there but not partaking, is so very horny. Watching him explore his inner wants is incredibly sensual.

It evokes a most beautiful sense of trust and togetherness.

We did on occasion have another join in the fun but we really did not need other people to help us keep things exciting. 

Even when we were alone and needed to jerk off, the toys would often be used.

Many times we would each discover something new that we want to try on each other or we would discover a new sensation.

 

So I guess to answer the question.

ARE SEX TOYS GOOD FOR ME AND MY RELATIONSHIPS?  The answer most certainly is YES YES YES YES.

However it requires a certain amount of mutual honesty and respect for each others desires and likes.

It is abundantly clear that a healthy, confident sexuality leads to a more confident self. A more successful self. A more fulfilled self.

 

 

 

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